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Van Wagenen spoke to TIME about being popular, her book and advice for aspiring popular kids:
4) Being unpopular in high school does not a tragic backstory make. Selfie isn’t the first show to try and make not being the most popular person in high school a credible excuse for sucking in the present, and it won’t be the last. TV comedies can still be fun and lighthearted even if they delve deeper than an unpleasant school dance experience. But Selfie is just as shallow as it’s main character, which is why I’ll be taking my business elsewhere. Better luck next year, ABC!
Just remember being popular is a subjective opinion and subjective opinions don't get anywhere.
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I know a lot of people who were nerds in school, and they all tellthe same story: there is a strong correlation between being smartand being a nerd, and an even stronger inverse correlation betweenbeing a nerd and being popular. Being smart seems to youunpopular.Alberti, arguably the archetype of the Renaissance Man, writes that"no art, however minor, demands less than total dedication if youwant to excel in it."I wonder if anyone in the world works harderat anything than American school kids work at popularity. Navy SEALsand neurosurgery residents seem slackers by comparison. Theyoccasionally take vacations; some even have hobbies. An Americanteenager may work at being popular every waking hour, 365 days ayear.If someone had told me that at the time, I would have laughed athim. Being unpopular in school makes kids miserable, some of themso miserable that they commit suicide. Telling me that I didn'twant to be popular would have seemed like telling someone dying ofthirst in a desert that he didn't want a glass of water. Of courseI wanted to be popular."Popularity only lasts so long. Waste time being popular? No thanks. I'll spend my time being happy. Happiness lasts forever, and it makes you feel just as good." -- Taylor, 10th gradeEven if nerds cared as much as other kids about popularity, beingpopular would be more work for them. The popular kids learned tobe popular, and to want to be popular, the same way the nerds learnedto be smart, and to want to be smart: from their parents. While thenerds were being trained to get the right answers, the popular kidswere being trained to please."No, I don't think that being popular is important. It won't matter if people knew your name or who you hung out with. What matters is if you made a name for yourself and are successful after school." -- Vernice, 10th grade"Do I think it's important to be popular? Not at all. Being popular doesn't help you succeed in life, so why should it be important?" -- Cathleen, 10th gradeIf you're anyone else in the world, then no. Being popular is just something some people enjoy. Whether it's the attention or love or drama, it's not for everyone, and it's overrated.